This stillness soothes.
Fallen leaves hide the mountain path.We're thinking of conducting a new set of meetings. They'll be called, "Talking of Death," (ToD). We'll talk of death, our own and other's. Nothing fancy. Just talking.
No one around to ask directions.
An old monk sweeps the ground.
A novice rushes up to greet me.
- Jungkwan Ilson (1533-1608)
In his book How We Die, Dr. Sherwin B. Nuland writes, "Death belongs to the dying and to those who love them." Clearly, it should. But it doesn't. It belongs to doctors and hospitals and drug manufacturers and insurance programs and policy-makers, all of whom drive the direction of our care and treatment. They own our final days and months. They own our dying. They own it because, over the past several decades, we have turned it over to them. We have ceded control, and now we don't know enough about the process to redirect it or regain control over it.
It doesn't have to be this way. We can reclaim death. We have the power to change it, to make it ours again.
(--Excerpted from Talking About Death Won't Kill You. Copyright 2001 by Virginia Morris.)
Deserving our words.