Goldstein and Kornfield say the balance is between wisdom and service. The path of the heart travels the middle way between what occurs within the individual and what occurs in the greater within of community, society, the whole population.
(--William Blake, 1757-1827)
In the Merton Bookshed we sit is silence a brief while. We listen to the Book of the Hours, Saturday Dusk. We sound bell at end, three times in darkened candle shadow. Dogs go barking into dooryard. We come through barn into house.
I meet people who live in fear. I listen. I watch. I ask if I can help.
Others' pain sometimes blinds them to the suffering they attempt to inflict on the human objects of their dissatisfaction. There's not much else to do with that but let it be the starting point of deep meditation and simple service in response going forward.
There's no healing the past. There is only the present extending itself in every direction until there is only the present clarified with compassion surrounding everything and everyone with a wise heart without opposition.
We have so many teachers trying to get our attention focusing on what is the next step, the emerging truth, the changing of perception, the release of our selves from themselves.
The recognition of what is only real.
Elisha: If you were sitting across the table from a person who was experiencing deep emotional suffering in their life right now, what advice or suggestions would you give them.
Jack: Very little advice to start with. I believe the most important thing I can do is to be fully present as I sit with them and not to try and advise them. To sit and be present, even to hold their hand or if they were not open to it, hold them in my heart and let my own experience resonate with theirs. To bring myself to their experience with as much compassion and care and perspective and deep breath and love as I could. To start with words I’d be curious, what is your suffering, and what are your tears and anguish and trauma? I’d want to know and not impose any advice, without first clearly hearing what they knew and where they were and what they were looking for.
And then perhaps from this shared capacity to be present I’d want to communicate a deep trust that we can open to it all and move through the experience of suffering. I’d want them to know that their experience is part of their humanity, part of the difficulty and the gift of human incarnation and we are all called upon to bear our sorrows as well as our joys, and that we can bear them and they’re not the end of the story. That our sufferings don’t define us and we don’t have to be so loyal to our suffering that we don’t see that there is a greater mysterious majestic dance that we’re a part of so that the communication of trust as well as the capacity to be present is there.
Because it is as William Blake says that in the minute particulars that goodness is transmitted, not in the general or the ideological, but actually in the presence itself.
(--from Mindfulness and Psychotherapy: An Interview with Jark Kornfield, by Elsha Goldstein, PH.D)Here's what Blake said: "He who would do good to another must do it in Minute Particulars: general Good is the plea of the scoundrel, hypocrite, and flatterer, for Art and Science cannot exist but in minutely organized Particulars."
http://blogs.psychcentral.com/mindfulness/2009/12/mindfulness-and-psychotherapy-an-interview-with-jack-kornfield/
(--William Blake, 1757-1827)
In the Merton Bookshed we sit is silence a brief while. We listen to the Book of the Hours, Saturday Dusk. We sound bell at end, three times in darkened candle shadow. Dogs go barking into dooryard. We come through barn into house.
I meet people who live in fear. I listen. I watch. I ask if I can help.
Others' pain sometimes blinds them to the suffering they attempt to inflict on the human objects of their dissatisfaction. There's not much else to do with that but let it be the starting point of deep meditation and simple service in response going forward.
There's no healing the past. There is only the present extending itself in every direction until there is only the present clarified with compassion surrounding everything and everyone with a wise heart without opposition.
We have so many teachers trying to get our attention focusing on what is the next step, the emerging truth, the changing of perception, the release of our selves from themselves.
The recognition of what is only real.